I have updated the question to add this generality. Wow i guess its informative as well as helpfull ..JazakAllah. We can hold up our own end and run the household just as equally like men. Saying I love you is not enough ;). the whole cursed for not being your mans slave in bed thing sounded a bit extreme. that is the only aspect of islam which i never believed in nor i will. Its not just men. It is unlikely that marrying in secret is holistically aligned with being honest, sincere, and responsible. Serve you to God in the matters of wives, for you take them with the message of Allah and you make their halal cults with the words of Allah. When a man calls his wife to his bed, and she does not respond and he (the husband) spends the night angry with her, the angels curse her until morning. However, men are not obliged to take permission but at the same time they are required to inform their wives. This post is general, it doesnt work on husbands who are unfair with their wives. In Islam, of course, this is permissible if the wife approves her husband wishes. I love my husband sooooo very much, and he is wonderful! (i.e. After all my warnings and threats of leaving he abandoned the idea. As i know myself better than anyone so i would noy go for second marriage as i know i would not be able to do justice.. This is just how it is, in all schools of thought in Islam. If anyone ever asked, I would describe my relationship as strong, trusting, and extremely happy. good care of her. relationship is even more haraam, because it is a transgression against the If you sincerely repent from your heart, then Allah SWT is Most Merciful and will wipe away your sins and transform them into good deeds. I firmly believe in equality, but realize men and women have different roles in the family. All men are different and do expect different things, same goes for women, marriage is about communicating, you are not just two people that meet in day to have sex and thats it, where is the communication, find out what YOUR husband wants and not what this idiot wants. Abu Dawud said: What he means is the heart. In the very same verse it is stated clearly that if a man cannot treat his wives with equity, he should not marry more than one woman. well said KAY i totally agree with you. Thus, your situation with your husband needs further investigation. that He creates love and compassion between them, and helps each of them to Threatens you with divorce when ever you say you going to tell her husband about they little chats on a daily base. Jazakum Allah khayran. Impotence is not the same thing as infertility. Islam is about logic and clear thinking. I will appreciate that. and one who does an atom weight of good will see it. During wars, there are more men killed as compared to women. As salaam alaikum, Look at the way he was with his wives. i love him more than anything else. reward for being patient in the face of a trial, as Allaah says This idea is put forward in the Quran where Allah says: Men are in charge of women by what Allah has given one over the other and what they spend from their wealth. Hibbaan: If a woman offers her five daily prayers and fasts her month But you decide to endure bcos of ur kids n bcos he always threaten to collect them from you. There are no specific hadiths about many things. 3. May Allah bless your marraige and everybody elses. If your husband has a busy routine, dont bother him with small quarrels of the day. marrying someone other than her husband when she is still married to her I was thinking the same thing. This takes deliberate words, a soft touch, and careful action. stabbing him in the back by tearing apart his family, so that his home and By marrying second woman would grant that wife and her children with the right of having equal share of mans wealth not just that they would get father support in their upbringing which women mostly ignores when they heard of second marriage. (3) Dispute over marriage between the lady and her husband.. Marriage contract involving an unidentified woman: Death, if the.In general, the marriage of a married woman, or of . I feel that he is not having any love for me. It seems shes expecting some fatwa & if she is then tough luck, knocking the wrong door. Alhamduliallh. After an argument or disagreement over certain issue women may be adamant and come up with excuses not to have sex whereas men are usually easy to ignore what has happened and can easily get involved. If you only learn to use it properly. Not all Muslim are same, you are talking about a handful. is what is good, but if he waits until he feels good about it or sees a This article is hilarious and so made for men who need to control and own their wife. I do not understand. Shukuran! The Jewish Sephardic communities living in Muslim countries continued the practice till as late as 1950, when an Act of the chief Rabbinate of Israel extended the ban on marrying more than one wife. I knew he loved me and he truly did but he loved to have sex with. But why men want loyality from women yet they themselves think about other women :s its ok & natural for them to think and dream abt other women, isnt it wrong ??? This is the one part of Islam that I will never accept, a man should NEVER be allowed to marry more than once simply because he wants to. Clearly, your husband did a harmful, immature, and unhealthy thing. They were born and raised in the west, especially the UK where we have Ulema who now grant permission for Muslimahs to marry Christian men and call it Halal.. This cookie is set by GDPR Cookie Consent plugin. That plus the fact that a good human is what one needs to strive to be, not a good muslim. I would rather say dont even feel. He wants me to marry him and be his 2nd wife. 3.If this young man were to get When you said you will send him back home May Allah grant us all taqwa and love and understanding of His deen. The most important aspect of a lasting good islamic marriage is respect. So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husbands] absence what Allah would have them guard. It was only a couple of centuries ago that the Church restricted the number of wives to one. You cannot say Im a muslim but I dont agree to polygamy. I had to be treated by my doctor for depression. If the wife has a genuine reason for not meeting the husbands needs then she will be forgiven inshaAllah. Good always comes from a bad. Now I also got 1 boy child. If you insist on self respect from the beginning then it will be the core of your lone life together In Sha Allah. I started feeling he only wants few things from me I must be there with him on bed whenever he wants it I must cook food for him I must do all the household things and inreturn he couldnt console me not financially not mentally n not even emotionally. Do you know his family and friends? on our wedding night my nri husband told me he is in love with another woman; : NRI - ' ' . if a women is widowed i will request my husband to give her some property , provide education to childrens and also money. I know someone who says he loves his wife and yet wants to get married again! Assalamu alaikum wa rahmatullah. Please dont misguide people.. if u dont actually know the answer. Right to Receive Financial Support. Treat her like a servant. Why should a nice type Muslim sister be patient when her husband is verbally or even physically abusive, emotionally distant, selfish, childish an narcisstic? @mr. handsome there is no such hadith, please show us, man has to take care for his wifes desires but the punishment or his requirement to fulfil are not of the same level. to be frank I think many muslim men prefer to have mistresses rather than remarrya man who agrees to remarry and to take the responsibility of another woman in my opinion is very courageous..personally I will prefer my husband have a second wife rather than having many short affairs,,,,, many sisters are not even aware that their husbands are cheating on them.. nice article.ma sha Allahdescribed very beutifully in concise way..wud recommend every1 even to watch sk.yasir qadhi lectures somewhere on youtube like a garment coursejust alhamdulillah awesome.beautifully explained..both for men and women,,,,:). She left her home,bears your name,married to you,people know her by your name,and till the end she would be known by your name,still you would doubt her being not loyal to you or obedient? Am I guessing right to say he is not legal in your county ? I found this to be quite patronising and if Im not mistaken it was written by a male? Otherwise, it is not Haram at all and I earge you not to claim something is haram when it is not. Views : Men are using their own ways of thinking to have more than one wife but there will always be one wife he will like more or give something more to. Wel then his only after one thing isnt he I want to stay by his side, to love him respect him appreciate him and satisfy him without feeling like its all one sided and without feeling like he doesnt deserve it i want to feel respected appreciated and worthwhile but how can i feel that if Im clearly not even worth a days work?? Jazaakallahu khayran. Just be sincere and the next time you think about one of the great things he does that makes you love him . Is it true? Any how he got chance for quarring with me. Thank you thank you DR ABULU for the good work you just did in my life , my name is ALVINA i was married to my husband for two years and we were living together happily and we both love each other for this two year not until one bad evening when i came back from work late due to scares of transportation and he started queering and he said he does not trust me anymore and he can continue with this marriage anymore and he drove me away from his house unknowingly to him that i was carrying his two month old baby inside me i tried informing he but he won,t listen to me anymore i thought i will never get him back again and i loved him so much and i promise not to rest until am able to get him back to my life so i began to look for a solution and help to get him back this was because i do not want to give birth to a fatherless child so one afternoon as i was browsing on my computer i came across a testimony shared by miss Rachael from UK how she got his ex husband back with the help of Dr abulu of (abuluspiritualtemple@yahoo.com) so i decided to give him a try and to my best surprise the spell this man cast on my husband work just within two days i contacted him . Sorry to hear what your husband does but believe me every single Muslim husband is not same.i saa muslim husband respect thier wifes and help them when they need so please do not think negative about islam .islam is really wide about womens right if you get chance study quran or islamic book .thanks fe-aman-Allah, I am working woman, my husband is also posess good job, alhamdu lillah wealth, but since15 years iam living with my inlaws,my inlaws r very stubborn and torchering me, i am asking for seprate house but not ready . Polygamy can be of two types. salam,im sure the article written is in good faith n might help some but by God centuries have passed in trying to teach women how to make their husbands happy,not that theres no more need 4 it yet its about time as per the holyQuran when women will ask what my fault was!!! What about 7 things your wife wont tell you? But for the couple who are in agreement with one another and understand one another and know that perhaps you have had a long day, your stressed about work, your worried about your childrens exams etcc..The husband should understand and in that regard the hadiths punishment does not apply. he wants to marry me but he said what if there was a 2nd one? Whatever you decide to do (leave him or try again), may Allah guide you towards the right path and give you happiness. Asalaamualaykum. My husband converted to Islam 7 years and I converted 4 years ago. It was a woman recently divorced, 4 children. Noor was recently married. @Paula- So sorry that you have to deal with all this:(. This is the silliest thing Ive read in awhile. Fee amanillah. NO! Can I? But now I have a better understanding of this I used to think that it was only my husband dat acts this but I now I have a better perceptive of things! If she is married, then such a She took my hand and with tears in her eyes said: This is very hard for me, but I hope that we can be sisters her words broke my heart. LEARN QURANIC ARABIC AND READ AND UNDERSTAND THE QURAN FOR YOURSELF, DONT RELY ON WHAT OTHER PEOPLE TELL YOU. Secondly, although not required but would be of good practice would be to tell my first wife of the reasons to go for second marriage. Thats life. Below is one of the verses of the Quran that explains this. Good morning In a religion banning intoxication, this is one of very few ways to feel drunk or high. And its so true toom some times I feel un loved by my husband and I always feel he doesnt share things with me. As for the positive result that you say your friend got, A week after he came back, he told me that he had got married in Egypt. i often make excuses not to fulfil his sexual desires just because Im either exhausted working, seeing to the kids and the home or because i just feel thats all Im here for to satisfy him while he has a easy ride. 30 January, 2022 Q I am a converted Muslim from the UK. Excerpted, with slight modifications, form: www.islam-qa.com This article is a joke. Salam Aleykum, Lve ! if the woman is given that and still ignores her husbands needs and wants then youve obviously married the wrong kind of woman, women shouldnt get away with being rude and disrespectful for no reason, infact they deserve to be left alone unmarried so they can learn and reflect and make a change in themselves. First weeks were reat but now lot of times we argued really bad even fight. DONT EXPECT RESPECT. You need more discipline in your life. Your email address will not be published. I dont know if I should go away, dissappear. For shame! I got married to him for my family, soon after marriage the day I went to his house the entire house burden n my father in laws responsibility was on me. If one talaq or two talaqs are Bayina, then after three months or three menstrual periods can be remarried. I dont understand when good women devote themselves to their husbands and yet men want 2nd, 3rd, and 4th wives in some cases? So righteous women are devoutly obedient, guarding in [the husband's] absence what Allah would have them guard. You should not even be looking at other woman mate! In particular the Hadith. grow up and stop playing the victim. Because then hell start feeling that you dont respect (theres that word again) the things he does do for you. [Al-Quran (4:129)]. interests and desires? Zakkiya http://www.muslimommy.com, What happens if he abuses you physically, insult you and your family every chance he gat, threaten divorce all the time, because of minor issues. Alhamdulillah Allahs made it a fair play for both men and women. Allah knows best of this world. My second question regards polygamy. Truly jealousy is what Allah loves and some whom He hates, his jealousy is al-ghirah (jealousy) for evil, his envied jealousy is jealous (things) that are not evil.(HR an-Nasai and Ibn Hibban), 15. This will add to your familial kinship relationship. (Sidetracked). firmly either to do it or not to do it. He assured over a three year period he was singleno kids nothing. He lies, so I dont really know what is going on. Islam prefers giving women the honourable position by permitting the first option and disallowing the second. It may be that this or another wife. Just like if a woman wants a man to love her, she needs to figure out how to show respect even when she doesnt respect him, and figure out how to be with him at night even when shes not feeling attracted to him, just like this, if a man wants his woman to respect him, then he needs to figure out how to talk to her and show his emotions instead of hiding behind the all-too-easy Argh, Im a man, talking is too hard for me screen. Eve Dream Explanation A woman seeing Eve in her dream: (1) Will make her husband unhappy and give him worries for befriending unworthy persons. The reason lies in the high rate of female infanticide in India, and the fact that more than one million female foetuses are aborted every year in this country, after they are identified as females. You should realize that you have these are selfih man, and simple women who dont stand up for themselves. I have read that this contract is not allowed in Islam. You will find the strength IA. 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